Take this to help determine if your relationship is healthy or not. Remember, emotional abuse is even more common than physical abuse and it can happen to guys and girls.
You and your partner are planning to hang out just the two of you tonight. You’re feeling:
A. Excited because we love spending time together
B. A little nervous; sometimes we argue and things get tense
C. Scared; I don’t really like it when we’re alone because we fight and sometimes it gets physical
How often does your partner call/text you?
A. About once a day; it’s so sweet
B. About once an hour; it’s a little much sometimes but I really love him/her
C. All the time; he/she is always asking who I’m with and where I am
You don’t really want to do something that your partner does want to do. He/she…
A. Accepts it and doesn’t push me
B. Acts like it’s OK but totally gives me the guilt trip
C. Gets mad and yells then sometimes makes me do it anyway
You wear something your partner doesn’t like. He/she…
A. Doesn’t say a thing; I dress however I want
B. Usually hints that I should change
C. Flat out refuses to go out with me until I change then acts mad the rest of the night
Your partner and you argue…
A. Rarely; we usually will talk things out. Sometimes we might raise our voices but we calm down pretty quickly.
B. Often; sometimes he/she says hateful things but we say sorry right away
C. All the time; sometimes he/she has hit me. He/she says sorry but also blames me
- You have a good thing going! Sounds like your relationship is a good one where you respect each other and work through problems together.
- Your relationship is showing signs of trouble. Be careful and watch where things are heading.
Any C’s at all
- That’s a serious sign that your relationship is unhealthy or abusive. It’s very important to take steps to change or get out of it.
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Dating violence is a type of intimate partner violence. It occurs between two people in a close relationship. The nature of dating violence can be physical, emotional, or sexual.
Physical—This occurs when a partner is pinched, hit, shoved, or kicked.
Emotional—This means threatening a partner or harming his or her sense of self-worth. Examples include name calling, shaming, bullying, embarrassing on purpose, or keeping him/her away from friends and family.
Sexual—This is forcing a partner to engage in a sex act when he or she does not or cannot consent.
Stalking—This refers to a pattern of harassing or threatening tactics used by a perpetrator that is both unwanted and causes fear in the victim.
Dating violence can take place in person or electronically, such as repeated texting or posting sexual pictures of a partner online. Unhealthy relationships can start early and last a lifetime. Dating violence often starts with teasing and name calling. These behaviors are often thought to be a “normal” part of a relationship. But these behaviors can lead to more serious violence like physical assault and rape.
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